Identity

Tonight's class discussion about theories of psychology got me thinking about identity. Many theorists (e.g., Erikson) argue that a person must realize who they are, their identity, before intimately committing to another person. I disagree. At the age of 16, when I met Chris, I didn't know who I was. I'm not even 100% sure of who I am today, but I am fully and deeply committed to Chris. A woman in class shared her story about how she was married at 16 and divorced at 21. She argued that her lack of identity was to blame for her divorce. I'm just not sure...

What I know to be true and real is destiny. Chris and I created our destiny. We've worked hard to maintain our relationship, because we are both in it forever and believe that we are each other's destiny. I'm not sure where the theory comes into all of this, but I know that our love is real.